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Tutus, tatas, trailer parks, Kool-Aid in styrofoam Cups, and an understanding of her “why”.

A few years ago as I contemplated my next steps from a career perspective, I knew that while I wanted to remain close to software development and project management, I also wanted the next part of my journey to include serving in a role that drives corporate philanthropy. So I wrote out my complete job description and prayed about it. SN: I write out everything, goals, dreams, etc. (“Write the vision.” I’ll likely share more on this and how it has helped throughout my life in a separate post soon.)

Today, I serve in that dual-role I prayed for that keeps me close to software development and project management while leading the corporate philanthropy charge for my company. In this capacity, I get to further pursue part of my purpose by creating an environment of service and outreach where employees can give back in meaningful ways that align to the core values of the company.

This month’s corporate outreach initiative was the Making Strides Against Breast Cancer 5k Walk. As a team, we headed to the National Mall to join other teams covered in pink, wearing tutus, and fighting for a cure!

It was an awesome outpouring of support. I started off walking with one colleague—about 25 years my senior—but I couldn’t keep up with her speed walk, so I let her go on ahead and "be great"! I found my stride and ended up next to another colleague, whom I’ve known of for about a year as we’ve interacted at other outreach events but I had never really had a chance to speak with her at length.

As we walked the three miles, we started talking about our childhood and I was shocked to find that much of our experience was quite similar. I can’t say I had assumed anything about her upbringing because I never thought about it. I knew she was very nice, professional, and always extremely excited about opportunities to serve. How she grew up never crossed my mind. However, if anyone had asked me to think about it, what she shared isn’t what I would have guessed in a million years.

We both grew up in poor neighborhoods, were heavily influenced by our grandmothers, and have almost identical pivotal moments that forever changed the course of our lives. And she too, remembers the lady in the neighborhood that would freeze Kool-Aid in styrofoam cups and when we were hot we would knock on her back door hoping she hadn’t run out already! Like me, she grew up surrounded by love but not in Ayden, in the projects on Belvedere Ct; for her it was in Richmond, on the Southside, in a trailer park to be exact.

On Sunday, I was able to see her in a whole new light. We’ve held quite a few service initiatives and she always shows up, ready and eager to serve. She’s one of the people that sticks around until the end of the sandwich drives to help take the sandwiches to the shelter. I just thought she was nice and liked to help. I learned on Sunday that she’s not just nice. She’s a Christian woman with a heart to serve. She’s excited about the sandwich drives because she recalls relying on a helping hand for a meal. She’s ready and willing to donate to the backpack drives because she remembers the assistance her mom received each year for school supplies, clothing, etc. I now understand her “why” and I have a new found understanding and appreciation for her.

And if you’ve ever been to a breast cancer walk you know that the party continues afterwards, so as the line dance songs started to play, I grabbed my snack and joined her for the electric slide and cupid shuffle as she ‘walked it out’!

Mrs. "Walk it Out" signing the Wall of Hope.

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"I'm a woman, how dare I not be great!"

Last night I had the pleasure of attending the 'This is Her Way' We Are Legendary Gala & Awards Dinner. The founder, Sherry Williams, honored five women last night and the pearls of wisdom shared during their acceptance speeches left me full and wanting more. I know, sounds like an oxymoron so let me explain. I definitely could have listened to each of them speak for at least another hour but I was full because I was so greatly impacted by what they shared. I received further confirmation, heard from God while listening, and accepted greater calls to action so I was indeed full. What I mean by wanting more is that they left me wanting more opportunities to serve, more opportunities to use my gifts in ways that honor God, and more time to pursue my purpose relentlessly.

The dynamic Quinta Brunson, creator of the widely popular Instagram/YouTube series “The Girl Who’s Never Been On A Nice Date Before” reminded us that we all have immense power and challenged us to further consider how we will use that power to rebuild our communities.

Gabrielle Jordan, the 15-year old author, entrepreneur, jewelry designer, inspirational speaker, and philanthropist who has been featured in Black Enterprise, graced the TED stage, and honored at Black Girls Rock, proclaimed that "fear is not legitimate."

Brittany O’Rourke, Radio and Television Host, Spokesperson, Presenter and Emcee, Creative Director, Songwriter and Model dropped so many jewels that I literally heard her voice while pin-curling my hair last night. One of the things she said that stood out and I believe many can relate to is “I was happy but I wasn’t fulfilled, there is a difference.” Wow! Now that’s a WORD.

The ‘Woman on the Rise’ recipient, 24 year old Tiara Willis, inspired us all by her life of service. Internationally, she has helped children learn English, donated food and clothing, and helped gain access to reading materials. She will be serving in Peace Corps Nicaragua focusing on economic development starting in the spring. She is urging her peers to give more, to serve, and to make an impact. She shared that when people ask why she gives back, she responds “Why don’t you?”

Miko Branch, the co-founder of Miss Jessie’s moved us to tears as she shared parts of her journey. She discussed some of the highs and lows, the loss of her sister, and didn’t hesitate to acknowledge God’s role in her life. She reminded us to “stay the course” and that “being in a position of choice is everything.” I was able to chat briefly with Miko before the book signing portion of the evening. In just a few moments, I felt this woman’s spirit. Just a few words in and we were both teary eyed; If you have never met her, she’s the friend you want to call when you’ve had a good or bad day, the sister you want to watch movies with all night, the auntie you want to take with you to an unnerving doctor’s appointment, and the teacher that inspires you to greatness, all in one! She speaks with intent, walks with grace, and moves in purpose. Her words were profound and her actions spoke volumes. As we gathered for the book signing and waited for the device to be secured to accept payments, Miko quietly asked one of the host how many women were in attendance. The host responded with the number and Miko in turn shared that everyone would receive a complimentary copy of the book she co-authored with her sister Titi, Miss Jessie’s: Creating a Successful Business from Scratch---Naturally. Her beneficence reminds me of two important principles and scriptures

  1. Operate from a space of abundance. 2nd Corinthians 9:8, ”And God will generously provide all you need. Then you will always have everything you need and plenty left over to share with others.” (NLT)

  2. Your gift is not yours to keep, it is to be shared with others. 1 Peter 4:10, ”As each one has received a special gift, employ it in serving one another, as good stewards of the manifold grace of God.” (NAS)

 

Sherry concluded the evening reminding us of the important calls on our lives as well as the sanctity of sisterhood, and closed us out ‘Empowered Woman-Benediction Style’ by declaring “I am a woman, how dare I not be great!”

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"I'm just a woman." Bon mot or not?...or nah

The other day I attended a ‘pre-meeting’. You know, the meeting before the meeting…yea, one of those. However, this ‘pre-meeting’ was actually with two ladies that I’ve grown quite fond of. They are both extremely intelligent software engineers with 25+ years of experience. We were meeting to go over some ideas to later present at another meeting with a group of about 12- 15 individuals, mostly men.

The meeting was going well and I must admit that our synergy is amazing. We all thrive on cutting edge technology, have an affinity for lean-agile principles, and appreciate autonomy in the workplace. But while we were sharing our ideas, one of the women kept caveating her thoughts with “But I’m just a woman, what do I know?” Now I figured this was meant to throw a little shade at some of our male counterparts that would be attending the meeting, so I laughed it off initially. But later that day, I kept thinking about it and started recalling past mixed-gender meetings I’ve attended with this sharp and highly competent woman. It dawned on me that during those types of meetings, she’s not the most vocal, she rarely shares her thoughts or ideas, and when she does share - she doesn’t do so confidently.

Ok, fine...this could totally be her personality but I can’t help but wonder if her reticence during certain meetings is predicated by her words spoken in "jest". Is this truly a bon mot or not? Is it something she’s been jokingly saying for a while but now subconsciously believes it? And then I wondered if I've been guilty of the same. Have you?

Words have power and can influence your actions whether consciously or subconsciously.
 

"Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your habits, they become character.
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny and legacy.
Source – Unknown. Well, kinda...I can't figure out who said it first. :)

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